Destiny

“It’s choice – not chance – that determines your destiny.” (Jean Nidetch)

Since I was a child, I have been captivated with the word “destiny” for it conveys different meanings from each person’s point of view. Some people say that destiny is a choice; it is what you decide; and it is what you make. However, some people argued that destiny is beyond your control; it eventually happens as time goes by. In science, series of experiments need to be conducted to formulate a theory that could be imprinted in books and scrutinized by the public. Thus, series of experiences need to happen to develop a solid understanding of a vague conception. Let me share my own experiences that equipped me to develop my comprehension about destiny.

I had previous failed relationships before I met my husband. Every relationship that I have, I wish it to be the destiny, the so called fate from most people. Most people said that destiny is something that happens in your lives unexpectedly and sometimes unwelcome but it is meant to happen regardless of any circumstances. Yet, everything that happens to my life, I always have rooms for decision. I can decide when to stay and hold on and when to let go.

“I met Nico (a Korean) way back in the year 2006 through Marilou (my friend since college), who happened to be his personal tutor for English. After several meetings, he courted me to be his girlfriend. My flight to UAE will be due for few months when he courted me. I did not agree to build a relationship with him since I hate the thought of having a long distance relationship. Despite my decision, Nico wanted to remain a good friend and still we went out together exploring the beauty of Cebu and enjoying life. As time goes by, I eventually fallen in love with him. It never entered into my mind to have a relationship with a foreigner; I hate adjusting with other cultures; yet, I decided to give it a try. It is hard to fathom that I found real happiness and comfort with the person that has different cultures and beliefs than with the people of my own. I pursued with my going abroad in Dubai and face the fear of the things that I expected to happen. I experienced loneliness and hardships abroad but I hold on to our relationship. I decided to keep our relationship despite the distance, though there were guys near me who were willing to make me happy and give the affection that I needed in a foreign country. After a year in abroad, I came back to Philippines and get married with Nico my love.”

My story happened because of pure decisions and not by fate. I was able to control the circumstances by deciding not to entertain guys who are showing affections with all the intentions of having a relationship with me. I decided to be faithful and loyal to the one I love. Now I can say, that destiny is what we make it. Don't say "come what may, destiny will unfold by itself". Destiny is your choice and nothing else. So, shape well your destiny because your happiness is at stake.